007 - Attachment Theory and Parenting Styles

Attachment theory began when John Bowlby rebelled from the psychoanalytic establishment by, for the first time, observing families interacting in order to understand individuals.  Bowlby was later joined by Mary Ainsworth who developed on of the most iconic clinical tools in the history of child psychology: The Strange Situation.  This episode begins with Bowlby and Ainsworth and explores the difference between their conceptions of attachment and those later proposed by Rudolf Schaffer and Peggy Emerson.  It ends by relating how different parenting styles, as conceptualized by Diana Baumrind, Eleanor Maccoby and John Martin, can affect the development of attachment styles.

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The following is an outline of the content of episode 007: Attachment.

Welcome to PsyDactic - CAPs board study edition.  I am your host, Dr. O'Leary, a child and adolescent psychiatry fellow in the national capital region.  This is a podcast I designed to help myself and other CAPs fellows study for their boards.  Anyone interested in human development and mental health will likely also get something out of it.  For a run-down on how it is produced, please see Episode 001.  I am using AI to assist me with the content creation and I explain some of this in episode one.  Despite the fact that I am using AI to assist me, all the content in the podcast should be considered my personal opinion and no one else's. If you find errors in the content, I would love it if you could go to PsyDactic.Com and fill out a form there to let me know.

John Bowlby was a psychiatrist and psychoanalyst who became very dissatisfied with his own psychoanalytic training.  Bowlby’s son, Richard, reported that his father was criticized by his training psychoanalysts for questioning their ideas and methods and was told that his problem was that he didn’t understand it.  If he could get to the point that he understood psychoanalysis, then he would see his own ignorance was the problem.  Bowlby was not satisfied with statements like this.  Instead, he decided to take a huge risk, and that was to attempt to actually test psychological ideas by gathering huge amounts of observational data including whole families instead of just individuals.  

He then did what was radical at the time and that was to try to make models that fit the data instead of what psychoanalysts in his time were doing, which was to fit data to their preconceived models.  For this he was criticized by great figures like Melanie Klein and Anna Freud.  While he reportedly always considered himself to be an object relations theorist, his work went far beyond what his predecessors could ever have achieved merely by trying to refine their own ideas by thinking about them more.  

Bowlby was able to accomplish this by careful observation and by surrounding himself with thinkers like Mary Ainsworth, who insisted that they remain skeptical of their own ideas and gather more data.   Bowlby’s incorporation of a more scientific skepticism and his partnership with Mary Ainsworth allowed them to develop what has become one of the most useful and persistent paradigms in child development.  That paradigm is Attachment Theory.

Since then attachment has been explored in many different ways. I will also discuss Rudolf Schaffer and Peggy Emerson who broke with Bowlby and Ainsworth in a few important ways.

Let’s get started.

Attachment

John Bowlby

Bowlby’s Attachment Theory posits that infants are biologically predisposed due to evolutionary pressures to form strong emotional bonds with their primary caregivers and there is strong evolutionary pressure to do this. These bonds, which became known as attachments, are crucial for a child's emotional, social, and cognitive development.

Key Concepts of Bowlby's Attachment Theory:

1. Monotropy: Bowlby believed that infants form a primary attachment bond with one primary caregiver, typically the mother. This primary bond is considered crucial for healthy development.
2. Critical Period: There is a critical period, usually within the first two years of life, during which attachment bonds form most easily. If attachment is disrupted (something Bowlby called Maternal Deprivation) during the Critical Period, it has permanent negative consequences.
3. Internal Working Models: Early attachment experiences shape a child's internal working models, which are mental representations of self and others. These models influence how children perceive and interact with the world, including their relationships with others.
4. Secure Base Behavior: A secure attachment provides a safe base from which a child can explore the world, knowing that their caregiver is available for support and comfort.
5. Separation Anxiety: When separated from their primary caregiver, infants may experience separation anxiety, a normal and adaptive response to the threat of separation.

Separation Anxiety

John Bowlby identified three progressive stages of distress that young children experience during separation from their primary caregiver:

1. Protest:

• Intense distress: The child cries, screams, and protests vigorously.
• Seeking proximity: They may cling to the caregiver or try to prevent them from leaving.
• Refusal of comfort: The child may reject comfort from other caregivers.

2. Despair:

• Withdrawal: The child's protests subside, and they may appear calm or withdrawn.
• Loss of interest: They may lose interest in activities and become less responsive to others.
• Hopelessness: The child may seem hopeless and may exhibit signs of depression.

3. Detachment:

• Increased interest in others: The child may begin to engage with other caregivers and show interest in their surroundings.
• Emotional detachment: They may appear to have detached from the primary caregiver.  They now are repressing their feelings for and about their mother.
• Superficial relationships: These new relationships may be superficial and lack the depth of the original attachment.

It's important to note that not all children go through all three stages, and the intensity and duration of each stage can vary depending on the child's age, temperament, and the quality of the attachment bond. Additionally, prolonged separation can have significant negative impacts on a child's emotional and social development.

The Four Phases of Attachment:

1. Pre-attachment Phase (Birth to 6 Weeks) aka Undiscriminating Social Responsiveness: Infants signal their needs through crying and other behaviors. They are not yet attached to a specific caregiver and will accept comfort and care from anyone.
2. Attachment-in-the-Making Phase (6 Weeks to 6-8 Months) aka Discriminating Social Responsiveness: Infants begin to differentiate between familiar and unfamiliar people, showing preference for primary caregivers. They start to develop a sense of trust and expectations about their caregiver's responsiveness.
3. Clear-Cut Attachment Phase (6-8 Months to 18-24 Months) aka Active Proximity Seeking: Infants form strong attachments to primary caregivers. They exhibit separation anxiety and seek proximity to their caregiver for comfort and security.
4. Mature Attachment Phase (18-24 Months Onward) aka Goal-Corrected Partnership Phase: Children develop a more sophisticated understanding of relationships. They can balance their needs for closeness with their desire for independence.  This is related to the theory of mind.  Children can see that their caregiver has needs and compromise with them to have their own needs met instead of just demanding like an infant must.

Schaffer and Emerson 

While both John Bowlby and Schaffer and Emerson contributed significantly to our understanding of attachment theory, their perspectives differ in several key ways:

Monotropy vs. Multiple Attachments

• Bowlby: Bowlby emphasized the importance of a single, primary attachment figure, usually the mother. He believed that this primary bond was crucial for a child's emotional and social development.
• Schaffer and Emerson: In contrast, Schaffer and Emerson proposed that infants form multiple attachments with different caregivers. They observed that infants develop specific attachments with individuals who are sensitive and responsive to their needs.

Critical Period

• Bowlby: Bowlby suggested a critical period for attachment formation, typically between 6 and 18 months. He argued that if attachment is not formed during this period, it may be more difficult to establish later.
• Schaffer and Emerson: Schaffer and Emerson's research did not support the idea of a critical period. They found that infants can form multiple attachments at different stages of development.

Stages of Attachment

• Schaffer and Emerson outlined four distinct stages of attachment development:
  1. Asocial Stage (0 to 6-8 weeks): Infants do not discriminate between people.
  2. Indiscriminate Attachment (6-8 weeks - ~6 months): Infants prefer human company but do not show specific attachment to any particular person.
  3. Specific Attachment (7-9 months): Infants form a strong attachment to one primary caregiver.
  4. Multiple Attachments (9+ months): Infants begin to form attachments with other caregivers, such as siblings, grandparents, fathers and childcare providers.

Bowlby's theory focuses on the importance of the primary attachment figure because he was inferring the necessity of this attachment from his own speculation about its evolutionary significance.  Like Sigmund Freud, he tried to make his ideas consistent with his assumptions about Darwinian theory, which included the primacy of the primary attachment for survival. Schaffer and Emerson's research broadened this perspective after noting that the primary attachment, while important, was only one of many attachments a child makes and each of those has unique characteristics that are not bound by a single model of the primary attachment figure. They did not propose a critical period where there must be one primary attachment figure that serves as a model for all others.  Their view of a developing child’s mind was less bound by assumptions and they were open to embrace the role of multiple attachments and the role of sensitive responsiveness in forming these bonds.

I can’t keep talking about attachment theory without talking about Mary Ainsworth’s Strange Situation and her concept of attachment styles.  Attachment style is something that psychiatrists who have a more developmental perspective (like Child and Adolescent Psychiatrists) often use when creating their narrative formulation of a patient. 

The Strange Situation:

Mary Ainsworth developed the Strange Situation procedure to assess infant attachment styles. 

Mary Ainsworth's Strange Situation procedure is a standardized laboratory test designed to assess the quality of attachment between a child (typically between 9 and 18 months old) and their primary caregiver, usually the mother. The procedure involves a series of eight episodes, each lasting about 3 minutes, where the child is exposed to a series of separations and reunions with the caregiver and a stranger.  

Here are the eight episodes of the Strange Situation:

1. Parent and Child Alone: The parent and child are left alone in a playroom. The researcher observes the child's exploration behavior and interaction with the parent.  
2. Stranger Enters: A stranger enters the room and interacts with the parent, then attempts to interact with the child. The researcher observes the child's response to the stranger.  
3. Parent Leaves, Stranger Present: The parent leaves the room, leaving the child alone with the stranger. The researcher observes the child's response to the separation and the stranger's attempts to comfort the child.  
4. Parent Returns, Stranger Leaves: The parent returns and comforts the child, while the stranger leaves. The researcher observes the child's reunion behavior with the parent.  
5. Parent Leaves Child Alone: The parent leaves the room, leaving the child alone. The researcher observes the child's response to being alone.  
6. Stranger Returns: The stranger enters the room and attempts to comfort the child. The researcher observes the child's response to the stranger.  
7. Parent Returns: The parent returns and comforts the child. The researcher observes the child's reunion behavior with the parent.  
8. Parent and Child Alone: The parent and child are left alone together again. The researcher observes the child's interaction with the parent and their ability to return to play.

Types of attachment

By observing the child's behavior during these episodes, researchers can assess the quality of the child's attachment to their caregiver. Ainsworth identified three main attachment styles based on the child's responses:  

1. Secure Attachment: Children with secure attachment seek comfort from their caregiver when distressed, are easily soothed, and explore their environment confidently.  
2. Insecure-Avoidant Attachment: Children with insecure-avoidant attachment avoid their caregiver, show little distress upon separation, and may actively avoid contact upon reunion.  
3. Insecure-Resistant or Anxious-Ambivalent Attachment: Children with insecure-resistant attachment are clingy and ambivalent toward their caregiver. They may resist comfort and show anger or distress upon separation and reunion.  

Later, a fourth attachment style was identified:

1. Disorganized Attachment: Children with disorganized attachment exhibit inconsistent and confused behavior, often appearing dazed or disoriented.  

Sensitive responsiveness

Emerson and Shaffer were not as interested in attachment styles as they were in attachment formation.  They proposed that caregivers who practice sensitive responsiveness will form more healthy attachments.  Sensitive responsiveness, the ability of a caregiver to accurately interpret and respond to an infant's signals in a timely and appropriate manner, plays a crucial role in shaping the quality of attachment between infant and caregiver.1 Here's how sensitive responsiveness affects attachments:

Building Trust and Security:

• Accurate Interpretation: When caregivers are sensitive, they can correctly interpret their infant's cues, such as cries, facial expressions, and body language. This understanding allows them to respond to the infant's needs effectively.
• Timely Response: Prompt responses to an infant's signals help the infant feel secure and cared for. It conveys the message that their needs matter and that they can rely on their caregiver for support.
• Consistent Response: Consistent responsiveness fosters predictability and reliability in the caregiver-infant relationship. This predictability helps the infant develop trust in their caregiver.

Promoting Emotional Regulation:

• Emotional Validation: Sensitive caregivers acknowledge and validate their infant's emotions, even negative ones. This helps the infant feel understood and accepted.
• Teaching Coping Strategies: Through sensitive interactions, caregivers can help infants learn healthy ways to regulate their emotions For example, a caregiver might offer comfort and distraction when an infant is upset.
• Modeling Healthy Emotional Expression: Caregivers who express their own emotions in a healthy way can teach their infants how to manage their emotions appropriately.

Encouraging Exploration and Independence:

• Secure Base: A sensitive and responsive caregiver provides a secure base from which the infant can explore their environment. Knowing that their caregiver is available for support, infants feel confident to venture out and learn.
• Encouraging Autonomy: As infants grow, sensitive caregivers encourage their independence while still providing support and guidance. This balance helps infants develop a sense of self-efficacy.

Long-Term Impact:

• Secure Attachment: Sensitive and responsive caregiving is strongly linked to the development of secure attachment. Securely attached infants develop a positive sense of self and a positive view of others.
• Positive Social and Emotional Development: Secure attachment has been associated with better social skills, emotional regulation, and resilience in later life.
• Stronger Relationships: Secure attachment in infancy sets the stage for forming healthy and fulfilling relationships throughout life.

In summary, sensitive responsiveness is a cornerstone of secure attachment. By accurately interpreting and responding to their infant's signals, caregivers create a foundation of trust, security, and emotional well-being that benefits the infant's development in the short and long term.

Parenting Styles

The most influential theorist in the development of our modern understanding of parenting styles is Diana Baumrind. She identified three primary parenting styles in the 1960s:   

• Authoritarian: High demands, low responsiveness. These parents set strict rules, expect obedience, and often use punishment.   
• Authoritative: High demands, high responsiveness. These parents set clear expectations, enforce rules consistently, and are responsive to their children's needs and feelings.   
• Permissive: Low demands, high responsiveness. These parents are lenient, set few rules, and avoid punishment.  

Later, in the 1980s, researchers like Eleanor Maccoby and John Martin added a fourth style:   

• Neglectful: Low demands, low responsiveness. These parents are uninvolved and unresponsive to their children's needs.  

Baumrind's research has been foundational in understanding how parenting styles can influence child development, and her work continues to be cited and studied today.   

Parenting styles and attachment

Parenting style plays a significant role in shaping a child's attachment style. Here's a breakdown of how different parenting styles can influence attachment:

1. Authoritative Parenting:

• High Responsiveness, High Demandingness: This style is associated with secure attachment. Parents are responsive to their child's needs, set clear boundaries, and provide consistent discipline.
• Positive Impact on Attachment: Children feel safe, loved, and valued, leading to a secure attachment. They learn to trust and rely on their caregivers.

2. Authoritarian Parenting:

• Low Responsiveness, High Demandingness: This style can lead to insecure-avoidant attachment. Parents are demanding and controlling but not responsive to their child's emotional needs.
• Negative Impact on Attachment: Children may learn to suppress their emotions and become independent, but they may also struggle with trust and intimacy.

3. Permissive Parenting:

• High Responsiveness, Low Demandingness: This style can lead to insecure-anxious attachment. Parents are responsive but set few limits or boundaries.
• Negative Impact on Attachment: Children may become clingy, demanding, and have difficulty with self-regulation.

4. Neglectful Parenting:

• Low Responsiveness, Low Demandingness: This style is associated with disorganized attachment. Parents are uninvolved and unresponsive to their child's needs.
• Negative Impact on Attachment: Children may struggle with emotional regulation, have difficulty forming healthy relationships, and may exhibit erratic or confused behavior.

It's important to note that these are general tendencies, and individual experiences can vary. However, consistent and sensitive parenting, characterized by warmth, responsiveness, and clear boundaries, is generally associated with the development of secure attachment.

Summary and Outro